I am an irrational dresser. In fact, I am sure that I join the ranks of millions who only wear the really nice clothes we own for special occasions. And by really nice I mean the ones that either cost a lot or that originally cost a lot and I got on sale (which would be 100% of my “nice” wardrobe.) I don’t really think “out-of-the-box” either. No mixing high fashion (I spent more) with low fashion (I spent less) or wearing something really nice to a casual event. Never. I am not the daughter of a Depression-era farm boy for nothing! But, there is an important connection between public speaking and the clothes we wear.
The beauty of a healthy attitude that emanates from looking our best is that it actually helps us to STOP THINKING about ourselves. I feel good, I look good…. I can really focus on the people I am talking to. That is our central message to our clients. Be prepared. Know what you want to say. Get out of your own way and think about THEM.
Effective speakers prepare on many levels. One is dressing to feel strong, comfortable and self-confident. This is NOT about ridiculous standards of beauty, or fashion obsession, or the insane culture of narcissism we are living in. I hate all of that. It’s about understanding the power that comes from being our best, taking the time and energy to prepare for that and then focusing on what really matters between people.
I may have inspired myself to clean out my closet. Happy Holidays!